So long as the ego is there, one cannot love. Love alone can love, Love alone can conquer the ego.
-The Mother, CWM, Vol. 14, p. 121
When you want to pull everything towards you and other people do not interest you, that is called egoism; when you put yourself at the centre of the universe and all things exist only in relation to you, that is egoism. But it is very obvious, one must be blind not to see that one is egoistic. Everybody is a little egoistic, more or less, and at least a certain proportion of egoism is normally acceptable; but even in ordinary life, when one is a little too egoistic, well, one receives knocks on the nose, because, since everyone is egoistic, no one much likes egoism in others.
The Mother, CWM, Vol. 3, pp. 240-24